tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7664379680037827148.post3684952802952474936..comments2023-10-31T02:02:32.577-07:00Comments on Heart to Heart: What's next?Andreahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02420030932710393197noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7664379680037827148.post-8618403634382289962008-01-24T13:32:00.000-08:002008-01-24T13:32:00.000-08:00I've been wanting to respond to this post for days...I've been wanting to respond to this post for days... I guess I wish I had something wonderful to say, or something reassuring about how kids will forget all this stuff. But I don't. Riley talks about the hospital frequently. He often starts out by saying, "Mommy, remember when I was in the hospital and .... " And when friends come over and we read books, he often picks out hospital books, like "Gaspard in the Hospital" or Mr. Rogers's "Going to the Hospital." It's like he wants other kids to know that part of him. All I can say is that it seems like smaller kids don't hang on to the bad stuff as much as the parents do. When Riley talks about the hospital, he often thinks of the playroom or the wagon rides or looking out the window at the cars or playing Bingo. I think the worst of it, he doesn't really remember that much because a lot of those medicines have a bit of amnesia medicine in them... On the other hand, those are the worst parts for parents. We remember the worst stuff because it was the most traumatic for us. That said, I do wonder what it will be like the bigger he gets and the more he can worry and fret about stuff that is going to happen or might happen. Hang in there... xxoo Suzanne<BR/>p.s. Love that new picture of Dandrea!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7664379680037827148.post-50317471771804575382008-01-23T10:54:00.000-08:002008-01-23T10:54:00.000-08:00By no means is a cath a little thing. They are mes...By no means is a cath a little thing. They are messing around the heart and that is a HUGE thing. You did so well and I'm so glad this is over. I will be checking back to see what the game plan is. I am always thinking and praying for you all. We will get through this next surgery TOGETHER! Your not alone!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12195604999109772643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7664379680037827148.post-26151534831959288032008-01-22T16:22:00.000-08:002008-01-22T16:22:00.000-08:00Never once did it cross my mind that this is not a...Never once did it cross my mind that this is not a big deal. One would have to think that anytime you hear your child scream out of pain and there is nothing a mother can do about it is a HUGE deal. Hang in there!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7664379680037827148.post-49519223533369659142008-01-22T16:13:00.000-08:002008-01-22T16:13:00.000-08:00Great post.Thanks for sharing your thoughts with u...Great post.<BR/>Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. We have been considering the same type of issues lately. Sophia is about 40 months old and is much more aware of her situation. She will be having some minor surgery in February and a cath in June. But I am guessing she will be 4 before she has her VSD closure. We are doing our best to make since of it all for her. But as she gets older it certainly gets more difficult. Best wishes to Drew and family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7664379680037827148.post-22911728932638810862008-01-22T15:18:00.000-08:002008-01-22T15:18:00.000-08:00Having been in Drew shoes I can honestly say that ...Having been in Drew shoes I can honestly say that the memories fade. It doesn't make it easier and having to go back in makes them some what fresh again... just know that in this case time does heal....<BR/><BR/>All 3 of my kids did the teeth grinding thing at night and they outgrew it around 7 years old....humm maybe i had stressed kids... <BR/><BR/>Praying for you sistah.... feel the cyber hugs coming your way? Take good care of you and just believe that the "bad day" isn't coming....Paigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07399852950755636786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7664379680037827148.post-38429543354622645372008-01-22T12:21:00.000-08:002008-01-22T12:21:00.000-08:00Nobody could ever wish this on their little angel....Nobody could ever wish this on their little angel. I can't even imagine how hard it would be to help your little one process through such big events. But I know that God is going to do amazing things with Drew's life... in him and through him. His story touches people already!Amy, Steve, Molly, Paige and Garretthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12974948978904049944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7664379680037827148.post-54644995277738359832008-01-22T09:50:00.000-08:002008-01-22T09:50:00.000-08:00We've been wondering what is coming next, so we'll...We've been wondering what is coming next, so we'll be checking in with your blog later in the week as you talk to doctors. I know it has got to be so hard to talk about such a difficult subject with Drew, since he understands so much and probably has MANY tough questions to answer. It sounds like you are doing a great job! And as for the worry of emotional scarring, I have no professional training on the subject- but just from knowing Drew, and other young children who have had to deal with this type of bravery at a young age- I think that these experiences may be traumatic at the time- but are also what contribute to his greatness. Drew is one special little man! Hang in there and keep on being the amazing mom that you are.Anne Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02643072040343131635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7664379680037827148.post-45531612265226212822008-01-22T08:48:00.000-08:002008-01-22T08:48:00.000-08:00You know - Jilly grinds her teeth like crazy at ni...You know - Jilly grinds her teeth like crazy at night. We can hear her grinding them from the other room it's so bad. I never thought about stress as being the reason she grinds - that would make sense though. And she has been having nightmares about monsters tying her down - I always wonder how much she remembers about her surgery in May and wonder if these nightmares have anything to do with that. It is sad that we have to have these talks with them. I would much rather have the "sex" talk with my teenagers than have to talk about Jilly's heart issues, surgeries, procedures with her.<BR/>Maybe someday it will get easier.<BR/>I'm glad Drew did ok with the cath though and you get a plan here soon so you know how to plan for what is next.<BR/>DinaDinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11418523728508722038noreply@blogger.com